Gratitude Makes Us Better
In a culture that prefers complaint and criticism, be a rebel and choose to be grateful.
It’s easy to think of gratitude as “looking back,” but this is only half of it's power…
In a world characterized by constant social criticism and a perpetual desire for progress, the often-overlooked emotion of gratitude emerges as a powerful catalyst for personal and societal improvement.
While constructive criticism and a drive for change are essential elements in fostering growth, without a foundation of gratitude for what we DO have, individuals and societies may find themselves trapped in a cycle of discontent. I often see Gratitude conflated with “complacency” or resting on our laurels. I believe that this is a fundamental error in our perception of human nature. It misses the human need to reflect on past successes or W’s as the kids say, as motivation for future efforts of improvement.
Gratitude as a Source of Motivation
At its core, gratitude is the recognition and appreciation of the positive aspects of our lives. When individuals focus on what they are thankful for, they cultivate a mindset that transcends mere contentment – it becomes a wellspring of motivation for personal improvement. By acknowledging the blessings and privileges they possess, individuals gain a sense of purpose and inspiration to contribute positively to their own lives. But, we have a culture that teaches us to DENY our privileges, almost as if they are markers of shame. My belief is that our privileges are only shameful if we don’t put them to good use, or if we acquired them dishonestly. Privilege has context. Something that is a privilege for me in one place and time, may be a barrier for me in others. (My low melanin content would be an example of this.) I am advocating for a healthy relationship with our privileges. It’s ok to be happy and content while there is suffering elsewhere. Feeling this tension does NOT make you callous or uncaring for others. It is crucial for our mental health.
In the context of personal growth, gratitude acts as a motivational force that propels individuals toward self-improvement. Whether it be in their professional endeavors, relationships, or personal development, individuals who express gratitude are more likely to approach challenges with resilience and a positive mindset. The acknowledgment of the good in one's life becomes a driving force for overcoming obstacles and achieving personal goals.
Societal Impact of Gratitude
Beyond the individual level, the influence of gratitude extends to the societal sphere. In a world characterized by societal discontent and a constant pursuit of progress, gratitude serves as a counterbalance to the pervasive culture of complaint. While Critical Theories of ____ have their place in highlighting areas for improvement, a lack of gratitude can result in a society that is unable to appreciate the progress it has made. See past episode about this.
I believe many of us have already reached this point. The point where the imbalance between Criticism and Gratitude is so heavy, that expressing gratitude or even acknowledging progress is seen as “wrong think.”
A grateful society is one that values collaboration over conflict and seeks solutions rather than dwelling on problems. Gratitude fosters a collective mindset that encourages citizens to work together for the betterment of their communities. When individuals are grateful for the resources, opportunities, and freedoms they enjoy, they are more likely to contribute positively to society, be it through volunteerism, philanthropy, or civic engagement. Why? Because people like to be part of a winning team.
Furthermore, gratitude acts as a powerful antidote to the divisive forces that often permeate society. In a culture where social media and other platforms amplify grievances, gratitude becomes a unifying force that reminds individuals of their shared humanity. Focusing on my sense of gratitude requires me to recognize how far “WE have come TOGETHER.” This is what bonds me to my community and builds allies.
Teachers: Let’s Think About this concept in Education
I have never had more reasons to complain about structural issues in my school district than in the last 3 school years. The shit is hitting the fan, and each school year seems like a buffet of new education fads, lowered standards, the disappearance of student learning data in favor of “student wellbeing data” and so much more. There is a LOT for me to complain about. But…I love my job. Both can be true.
Teaching is a profession laden with challenges, yet it is also one that holds the immense privilege of influencing and inspiring young minds. Gratitude, in this context, is the acknowledgment and appreciation for the opportunities teachers have to make a meaningful impact on the lives of their students. When educators cultivate a sense of gratitude for what they "get to do" with their students, it becomes a powerful source of personal fulfillment.
Teachers who approach their work with gratitude are more likely to derive satisfaction from the intrinsic rewards of education. The realization that they have the privilege to impart knowledge, instill values, and contribute to the growth of their students becomes a driving force that sustains their passion for teaching. Gratitude acts as a constant reminder of the positive aspects of the profession, even in the face of challenges.
I have recently brought Choralosophy Podcast to TikTok. Between hearing teacher testimony there, and on other social media platforms, I have come to the conclusion that “Teachers Complaining” sells! We cheer each other on out of a sense of solidarity. And misery loves company. There is nothing wrong with that by itself. But, if we don’t temper that with an effort to lift up the stories of HAPPY teachers, we could be doing a lot of harm to the future of education.
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